I’ll take “Bad Advice” for $500, Alex.
If you know you’ve fucked up, apologize. It doesn’t invalidate that they messed up, but it does admit where you did, and open a chance to fix things. Too many relationships, from friendships to marriages, fall apart because one person wouldn’t apologize even though they knew they were wrong.
I’ll take “Not reading things properly” for £500, Alex.
Note I didn’t say “Don’t apologise, Tara”, but “don’t be *the first* to apologise”
Noah needs to show some signs of maturing by being the first to apologise for this latest car crash
Did Tara overreact? I mean, yes, she admitted as much.
But if your takeaway is “Nothing Noah and Sarah did warranted that” then I’m sorry you just haven’t taken a split second to try and understand why she acted the way she did. But I can spell it out frankly
As Tara noted – If that was the one sole bit of silliness that Sarah and Noah had done, that’d be one thing. But Noah had given NO inclination that this was going to stop. This was part of a pattern of being disruptive and silly and a nuisance. And he just moved in next door to Tara and Bev.
“Is this it? Is this going to be my future? Is my brother going to be obnoxious and intruding every single day in my life?”
Yeah, no shit she snapped at that possibility and drew a line.
This wasn’t just “a little silly.” This was the continuation of a pattern that had been going on for most of their life. And she had no way of knowing if this would ever come to an end. Her reaction was justified. The problem is, we now see it was also unneeded.
Yes, she should apologize, reopen dialogue, and get things settled before this becomes a problem. This also gives Noah a chance to tell her what’s going on so they can all be chill.
The impression I got was that it was a ‘last straw’ type reaction. Also, it was the heat of the moment – now that the emotion has passed, both she and Noah seem to be realising they need to have a serious talk.
Nothing WE have seen justified her reaction. She makes it very clear that Noah has always been a little troll. A tiny pinprick is not a serious injury, but getting regularly poked with a needle for years and years will break anyone.
It’s nice to see they’re both realizing they went too far this time, both in action and reaction. Now they just need to sit down and square it away before the damage becomes irreparable and resentment sets in.
11 thoughts on “Over for Dinner #6”
dysartes
Stay strong, Tara – don’t be the first to apologise.
Striker2054
I’ll take “Bad Advice” for $500, Alex.
If you know you’ve fucked up, apologize. It doesn’t invalidate that they messed up, but it does admit where you did, and open a chance to fix things. Too many relationships, from friendships to marriages, fall apart because one person wouldn’t apologize even though they knew they were wrong.
dysartes
I’ll take “Not reading things properly” for £500, Alex.
Note I didn’t say “Don’t apologise, Tara”, but “don’t be *the first* to apologise”
Noah needs to show some signs of maturing by being the first to apologise for this latest car crash
Albert Sousa
Sounds like they are going to make the change in their relationship status public.
Striker2054
I think that was the plan. They just did it in a very obnoxious way, and it backfired.
Sam Burnett
Tara needs to apologise pronto. Her brother and partner acted a little silly. Nothing justified that reaction from her.
Kyman201
Did Tara overreact? I mean, yes, she admitted as much.
But if your takeaway is “Nothing Noah and Sarah did warranted that” then I’m sorry you just haven’t taken a split second to try and understand why she acted the way she did. But I can spell it out frankly
As Tara noted – If that was the one sole bit of silliness that Sarah and Noah had done, that’d be one thing. But Noah had given NO inclination that this was going to stop. This was part of a pattern of being disruptive and silly and a nuisance. And he just moved in next door to Tara and Bev.
“Is this it? Is this going to be my future? Is my brother going to be obnoxious and intruding every single day in my life?”
Yeah, no shit she snapped at that possibility and drew a line.
Striker2054
This wasn’t just “a little silly.” This was the continuation of a pattern that had been going on for most of their life. And she had no way of knowing if this would ever come to an end. Her reaction was justified. The problem is, we now see it was also unneeded.
Yes, she should apologize, reopen dialogue, and get things settled before this becomes a problem. This also gives Noah a chance to tell her what’s going on so they can all be chill.
Danny B
The impression I got was that it was a ‘last straw’ type reaction. Also, it was the heat of the moment – now that the emotion has passed, both she and Noah seem to be realising they need to have a serious talk.
Shay
Nothing WE have seen justified her reaction. She makes it very clear that Noah has always been a little troll. A tiny pinprick is not a serious injury, but getting regularly poked with a needle for years and years will break anyone.
Striker2054
It’s nice to see they’re both realizing they went too far this time, both in action and reaction. Now they just need to sit down and square it away before the damage becomes irreparable and resentment sets in.